Masturbation in Women

Raw Statistics:

Nearly all males masturbate daily, or even more frequently, well into their 20s and sometimes far beyond.

This decline is more drastic among females, and more gradual among males.

While females aged 13–17 masturbated almost once a day on average (and almost as often as their male peers), adult women only masturbated 8–9 times a month, compared to the 18–22 among men.

Female masturbation techniques

These include a woman stroking or rubbing her vulva, especially her clitoris, with her index and/or middle fingers. Sometimes one or more fingers may be inserted into her vagina to repeatedly stroke the frontal wall of her vagina where her g-spot is located.

Masturbation aids such as a vibrator, dildo or Ben Wa balls can also be used to stimulate the vagina and clitoris.

Many women caress their breasts or stimulate a nipple with the free hand, if these are receptive areas for sexual stimulation. Anal stimulation is also enjoyed by some.

Lubrication is sometimes used during masturbation, especially when penetration is involved, but this is not universal and many women find their natural lubrication sufficient – some even produce more lubricant alone than with a partner.[citation needed]

Common positions include lying on back or face down, sitting, squatting, kneeling or standing.

In a bath or shower a female may direct tap water at her clitoris and vulva.

Lying face down one may use the hands, one may straddle a pillow, the corner or edge of the bed, a partner's leg or some scrunched-up clothing and "hump" her vulva and clitoris against it.

Standing up, a chair, the corner of an item of furniture or even a washing machine can be used to stimulate her clitoris through her labia and clothing.

In the 1920s, Havelock Ellis reported that turn-of-the-century seamstresses using treadle-operated sewing machines could achieve orgasm by sitting near the edge of their chairs.

Some women can reach orgasm merely by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the muscles in their legs, which creates pressure on the genitals.

This can potentially be done in public without observers noticing. Some prefer to use only pressure applied to the clitoris without direct contact, for example by pressing the palm or ball of the hand against underwear or other clothing.

A few women can orgasm spontaneously, after experiencing prior sexual arousal, due to intellectual stimulation alone, for instance listening to certain pieces of music.

Often, these mental triggers have associations with previous instances of arousal and orgasm.

Some women even claim to be able to orgasm spontaneously by force of will alone, but that ability, if it exists at all, may not strictly qualify as masturbation as no physical stimulus is involved.

Sex therapists will sometimes recommend that female patients take time to masturbate to orgasm, especially if they have not done so before.

Female Masturbation & Sexual Freedom

Masturbation gives women the opportunity to explore their body while at the same time giving them a high degree of sexual freedom.

It allows women the opportunity to experience sexual pleasure without relying on a partner, and to release sexual tension when they feel the need to.

Masturbation can be very empowering teaching tool for women, it teaches them about their bodies, and how it responds to sexual stimulation.

Many normal and healthy women only experience orgasm while masturbating, or it is their most intense type of orgasm.

Masturbation is the first and most important sexual skill a woman should learn, as it holds the key to enjoying other forms of sexual activity.

Ideally, this skill is learned prior to the age of five, but far too often it is not learned until a women is in her late teens or early twenties.

This stems from the incorrect notion that children are entirely devoid of sexuality and they are to be protected from the 'evils' of sexuality.

Children, especially infants, are incredibly curious individuals who will undoubtedly discover masturbation on their own.

A parent, if they catch their child masturbating, should not chastise their child for it, but rather, tell them about private and public actions.

In spite of the sexual revolution, female masturbation is still somewhat taboo.

Even though popular songs, movies, and television shows make mention of female masturbation, or the use of vibrators or dildos, it is not a common topic of discussion.

Men and women are more likely to make mention of boys and men masturbating than girls and women. I

t is given that men and boys masturbate, but for girls and women, even though it is commonly accepted that it is okay for them to do it, they are not expected to.

If a woman does not know that her peers masturbate and that they presume that she does, she is less likely to do it, or if she does, she feels guilty for doing it.

Even if it is acceptable to do something, people are less likely to do it if they do not know that their peers do it. Since women do not generally talk about it, it is presumed that they do not masturbate.

While it is extremely untrue, the majority of people believe that women are less sexual than men. We are led to believe that women think about sex and desire sex much less. Society creates outcasts of women who are openly sexual.

This results in women believing they should not have strong sexual feelings and desires. Unfortunately, many women are ashamed to admit they become horny.

This results in women introverting and denying their own sexual feelings and desires.

While a woman's desire for sex may change with time as the result of hormonal influences, they are just as sexual as men.

If a woman accepts that she is equally as sexual as a man, she is more likely to feel comfortable with her desire to masturbate.

The main reason a woman should masturbate is because it feels good. Women with strong sex drives may masturbate frequently, but they do so because it feels good, not because they are driven to.

If it did not feel good, it is not likely that they would, no matter how aroused they were. A woman should

not forgo masturbating just because she does not have a strong sex drive. Even if you have no desire for partner sex, you should still enjoy giving yourself pleasure.

The fact that pre-adolescent girls masturbate proves that hormonally induced sex drives are not the only reason to masturbate. Young girls do it for no other reason than it feels good. Since it does feel good, there is no reason to expect women not to. There is nothing wrong with a woman giving herself pleasure on a daily basis.

For masturbation to be pleasurable, it does not have to end in orgasm. Masturbation may involve nothing more than placing your hands against your vulva when you go to sleep at night, because it feels good.

Women are increasingly developing very positive attitudes towards masturbation and the pleasure it can bring them. If given the opportunity, women will often discuss their masturbation habits with pride, without the least amount of guilt.

// posted by Alice @ Monday, September 10, 2007